I’ve wanted to create a blog for quite some time now, and with my husband and I living away from some very dear friends and family, this will be a way to connect with all those that a care dearly about… with a little more detail than Facebook and Instagram.
Justin and I are still very newly wed, but I have learned these past 18 months that I absolutely love being a wife. Creating a home that is safe for both of us and a place that is inviting for couples, neighbors, and teens that we have the opportunity to meet and invest in truly brings me joy. I have been preparing for this role of wife since I can remember. As a young girl, I would help Mama in the kitchen prepare meals for guests. In high school, my friend Haley and I started collecting plates for our hope chests. I went through countless books and studies about being a woman of character and a future wife, but dreaming of the day when you say “I do” and step into marriage doesn’t compare to actually getting to be a wife.
My “I do” day came with a lot more than moving in with a boy. I had grown up in the big town of Williamston, SC and only went to college twenty minutes away from my parent’s house. I had always worked with kids: assisted in children’s church and VBS, was a camp counselor, led children’s ministry, taught… but everything was about to change. After our honeymoon to St. Augustine, we drove to my new home in Goose Creek, SC, about 4 hours away from everything I knew. My husband is a youth pastor and had lived in this area for a year helping start a church in Summerville, so I was no longer doing children’s ministry, but youth ministry. I had led a bible study or two with teens, but leading a group of middle and high schoolers was a bit terrifying. I started teaching at a new school, moved into an apartment, and this was the first time Justin and I had lived in the same city, let alone in the same house! A lot of change happened all at once, but being a wife and having a husband made everything worth it.
At first, it felt like I was just playing house. My hope chest was full of dishes, vintage decor, and even furniture for our new home, and I really enjoyed decorating our first place. I liked searching Pinterest for new recipes and trying to make yummy meals for my new husband, but I quickly realized that being married is more than decorating a home and eating meals together, it’s all about living life together. I have a best friend that I get to live life with every day. When ministry gets tough and and a long day at school leaves me exhausted, I have a live-in best friend to walk through things with. These first months of marriage haven’t always been easy, but I love that God has allowed me to be a wife and have a husband that mirrors His love, kindness, and comfort.